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“Omg did you see what that dumb girl wrote on my boyfriends wall!” to “ But they are facebook official, that means something” to “ Why is this guy sending you these naked photos?” Statements like these have grown to become word vomit in our society. Technology is drastically changing the way we behave in every kind of relationship and this change is not for the better. Girls complain constantly about how guys are rude, incompetent, selfish, little shits. Excuse my language for the last part. While at the same time guys are constantly saying how girls are clingy, psychotic, emotional messes who come with extra baggage they do not want to deal with. All this complaining and whining has in my own opinion evolved because of the effects technology, the two major ones being Facebook and cellular phones., have had on relationships. This new trend of being socially connected by the internet and cell phones allow for people to tell their whole life story in an easily accessible place for the world to see and sadly has created a tornado of chaos where lying cheating and manipulation dominate. I know so many people whose relationships have fallen apart because they read to much into lets say a Facebook comment they saw on their boyfriend/girlfriends wall, or from seeing a picture of their boyfriend/girlfriend posing to close with someone else. These images and words which would not have been seen if it was not for Facebook tend to transform into unwanted thoughts of what their boyfriend/girlfriend might be doing behind their back when in reality nothing happened. Same with a cell phone, guys/ girls now secretly search each others text messages to see if they can catch one another cheating, “sexting” someone else, acting inappropriately, etc. The best cell phone story I have heard is when my friend one day was telling me how she doesn’t understand what she did to have such an honest faithful boyfriend. Two weeks later, my friend is crying her eyes out telling me she found her boyfriends second cell phone in his boxer drawer filled with text messages, calls, and photos of this other woman. And with all of this said, I am not saying I don’t do the same thing, I am human I cant help it. However, after a failed relationship because I secretly read text messages on my boyfriends phone, and of course read to much into them, I ruined what we had over nothing. I was so embarrassed about what I did that I actually confessed to him later. After that experience, I became aware of how much technology influenced my emotions and actions. So here I am, writing this blog to try and inform people about what I have learned. To share stories I know where relationships have failed due to technology and point out the places where a person has let Facebook or a cell phone take over their clear-minded head.